I don’t usually do this. But, as I was listening to my pandora change into a station that didn’t make sense according to the artist I had started with, I was about to use a valuable skip. Until I heard the chorus. It was Who You Are by Jessie J. This feels cheezy, and out of character, but I immediately googled the lyrics:
Don’t lose who you are, in the blur of the stars.
Seeing is deceiving, dreaming is believing,
It’s okay not to be okay.
Sometimes it’s hard to follow your heart.
Tears don’t mean you’re losing, everybody’s bruising,
Just be true to who you are.
Sometimes music has the power to remind you of things that you might have forgotten. Or to show you things in life that you don’t realize because of how clouded your mind might be at the moment. These words (if you can get past the teenpop-iness of the song) are so important in any situation that life might throw at you.
Everybody has set backs, no one is alone in the low parts in life, no one experiences only highs. Learn from your mistakes, learn from your heartbreaks, learn from pain. Become stronger in yourself. Never forget who you are. Don’t let negative feelings control you - they do not make up who you are, they do not define you.
Failures and setbacks define the strength that you have to get back on your feet and get a fresh start. Sometimes you just need a good dose of self confidence (unless you’re an ego-maniac, then I would say you’re all set for a while). Build yourself up everyday, build up those you love as well. They might need it just as much as you do at your moment of weakness. Be true to yourself. Never, ever, ever give up. Continue to be the strong and confident person that you know you are.
Remind yourself of all the positive things that you have in life, in yourself, and hold on to them.
Love yourself, love your friends.
And excuse me again but to make the cheeziness over the top, i’m
1. adding a photo that makes me feel good, and
2. adding a photo that reminds me of how sassy I was as a child.
Both remind me of who I am.
Today is my last day in North Carolina. I’ve been here about a month. The warm weather has been really great, I’ve even been able to take a run outside in shorts and a t-shirt. I know the cold will slap me right in the face once I get off the plane on Saturday.
I’ve had a really great month with my family. My bro got engaged while I was here, which was really special. I got to hang out with my little bros everyday. We had a great christmas, all together. We had an awesome photo shoot by Chris Brice [family friend and awesome photographer that I totally recommend]. Just being with my family is nice and I’ve cherished it - it doesn’t happen often.
But I am homesick and I miss these babies [my boyz!]:
So, with that, I’m so happy to have had this month to keep it real with the fam.
I’ve missed you Maine, I’ll be home soon.
…”the political realm within which women struggle for forms of equality, such as democracy, must be disarticulated, not presumed a prioi to be a ‘neutral’ system, except for it’s inability to grant women equality. The system is founded on inequality: hence 'equality in this conetext can involve only the abstract opportunity to become men'.”
-Helen Molesworth, House Work and Art Work//2000.